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Help Save Molly! My Wife Wants To Give Up Our Puppy

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One of Boston Terriers Rock community members wrote to me asking for advice. Paul (@paul-mcdonagh) is in a sticky situation where his wife has recently had a baby and their Boston Terrier puppy Molly is acting like she has the terrible two’s.

Due to this Paul’s wife wants to give Molly up.

Hi Elise,
My wife wants to give up our Molly who is an adorable 18mnt Boston Terrier. we have just had a baby and my wife said Molly is too much for her to handle at home. we have another dog (lap dog who is mummy’s boy Malti-poo) who gets annoyed with Molly wanting to play, so he barks. we also have to crate Molly when we are not at home and at night because she started to chew up the carpet and sheds on our bed. i am 100% behind keeping Molly, but what can i do to change the situation? any suggestions would be appreciated.

I’ve done my best to give some advice on how he may be able to keep Molly but we’d really love for you to add your advice in the comments too.

This is a tricky situation you have here

boston terrier molly

Little 18 month old Molly

Do you have a backyard or do you live in an apartment?

First and foremost you have to think as if you were in your wife’s situation (which I’m sure you have). Having a baby especially if it’s your first child is a huge adjustment and your wife has spent the past 10 months whilst pregnant (yes it’s technically 10 months) losing some of her nutrients to bub, growing, not getting much sleep, being uncomfortable and then going through the marathon which is the birth. So when the baby arrives she is already exhausted both physically and emotionally.

Add to that, the hormones that are going crazy, trying to work out how to care for a newborn and get up throughout the night etc.

Now you know all of this but I really just wanted to emphasize that she is tired.

So when your little puppy Molly wants attention she isn’t getting it as your wife is likely struggling to find 5 minutes for herself. So, Molly starts being a little naughty to get the attention.

This will put further stress on your wife and could be why she’s at the point where she wants to give Molly up. She has no reserves left after caring for your baby.

So, now that we are clear on where your wife may be coming from what can you do to help the situation?

My advice would be to take as much of the burden off your wife as possible.

How do you do this?

  • Take The Dog For A long Walk Morning and Night
    Molly wants to play and has energy to burn so by taking her for a run in the morning and when you get home at night she’s getting her play time and burning up that energy so she’ll be less likely to be bored and ripping up carpet and trying to get your wife and other dog’s attention as she’ll be lazing around.
  • Help With Chores
    I know you are probably working all day but your wife’s job is 24/7 so make sure you are doing your share of the cleaning etc so that your wife has a little breathing space for me time.
  • Put The Dog In The Yard
    If you have a backyard get a dog kennel for Molly and have her sleep in the yard so you don’t have to worry about crating her or her tearing up your house.
  • Give Molly A Bone
    Giving Molly a bone to chew in the day will keep her occupied and out of your wife’s hair and she’ll be ready for a walk when you get home
  • Try and Catch Pup Being Naughty
    My breeder said the best way to stop your dog doing naughty things is to catch them in the act and discipline them. Verbally that is not physically. Easier said than done but try and catch her chewing the carpet.

All of the above suggestions are geared at easing the burden on your wife and keeping Molly happy and your wife happy.

I’m sure your wife loves Molly and doesn’t want to have to give her up but there is simply too much on her plate and Molly is low on her priority list.

If you want to keep Molly, you need to ease that burden. It will take effort but I know you can do it!

We are all here to support you!

What Are Your Suggestions For Paul?

Do you have any advice you can share with Paul?

Give him a hand and share your thoughts in the comments below.

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Elise Sorge

I laid eyes on my first Boston Terrier whilst living in a rustic cabin in Canada and was immediately smitten. I created Boston Terriers Rock for people like myself who love the unique style and character of Boston Terriers so we can connect and share our knowledge, experience and fun of our quirky Bostons. Read more about my story.

  • Jillian

    14 September 2012 at 6:19 am Reply

    Paul, have you tried giving your Boston a deer antler to chew on? I used to have a problem with my Boston chewing everything in the house, until my local dog store owner recommended antlers. Now, my Boston will sit quietly on the floor for hours just chewing on it. (And they don’t get gross and slimy like a raw hide.)
    I also agree that giving Molly lots of exercise is a good idea. If I take mine out for a big game of chase in the backyard, he just wants to sleep for a few hours.
    Have you thought about having a friend watch Molly for a while? Maybe if you get her out of the house until you and your wife are getting more sleep with the baby, things will smooth out.

    I’m so sorry you’re having such a hard time. Good luck!

  • Elise Rochelle

    14 September 2012 at 7:11 am Reply

    Hey Jillian thanks for sharing your advice – the deer antlers sound like a great idea! I’ll have to see if I can get them here in Australia for little Stelly when she is home alone.

  • johnna

    10 October 2012 at 6:59 am Reply

    My boston loves chewing on toothbrushes.The gummy handles prob. feel good on her teeth. She is always getting into trouble So I usually give her a tooth brush to keep her busy and occupied. Also the walking thing is key. Even if it is a short walk down the block and back. Boston’s love to play and have a lot of enegry. Which is also why I got two. Now they keep each other occupied. Although thats prob not an option for you 🙂

    • Elise Rochelle

      14 November 2012 at 5:20 am Reply

      Hi Johnna,

      Thanks for your suggestions! I never thought of a toothbrush, might give that a shot!


  • Kristina

    14 November 2012 at 4:56 pm Reply

    The initial thought that came to my head was seeking professional dog obedience training. Molly is going to need a little added time from you, but it will be worth it in the end. If professional help is out of the question, I would suggest getting a good number of toys that Molly has around all of the time. Toys that are hers, and she is allowed to chew on. Try to pick up anything you would rather her not get to. If you find her chewing something she shouldn’t, take it away and replace it with one of her toys. In time you will get to know which toys she enjoys more. Molly is definitely struggling for attention, and by giving her extra time now, I think she will calm down a bit and willing to listen to you more. Treats and praise for the good things she does helps as well. Positive reinforcement should help influence good behavior and make it easier for you to control her actions. Just have to keep Molly busy for a bit, as Elise suggested. I hope you get to keep her! She’s a beautiful dog, and well worth the work to get passed this terrible twos/new baby phase. Good luck and keep us posted. I hope this helps

  • mike gifford

    25 May 2013 at 1:07 pm Reply

    I used to be a boston breeder and there is nothing better for a child than a boston terrier for a playmate period the end. My girls loved thei b ts and everyone ive ever heard from tells how much thier children love and enjoy them good luck and hope you can figure it out. I still love my bostons like my kids, i ant imagine raising kids without them as companions and entertainment for them.

  • Hilda

    10 February 2014 at 9:02 am Reply

    I am looking for another Bostie! I have 2 but would love to have another one!!! I can’t imagine being without my pups! I live in Maryland.

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